Tim Keller on The Gospel and the Poor

Here's a video of Tim Keller speaking on how individuals and churches should respond to the poor.  Keller lays out the social responsibilities of the church clearly and systematically. This is well worth watching/listening.



Tim Keller: The Gospel and the Poor: A Case for Compassion from Here's Life Inner City on Vimeo.

No Compromise: Remembering Keith Green

I was discipled by a man named Keith Green.  Although I had never met him, his music and ministry had a profound impact on my life -- starting approximately three months after he died in a plane crash on July 28th, 1982. Today is the 29th anniversary of his death.

Keith was a popular Christian recording artist in the late '70's and early 80's.  People give me surprised looks when I say "I was discipled by Keith Green after his death". But his passion and commitment to Christ have significantly affected my walk with God.

I came to know the Lord on September 4th, 1982.  About a month later, I heard a choir perform The Easter Song (written by Ann Herring).  The director said it was made popular by "the late Keith Green".  After I heard the song, I became disheartened that he was "the late Keith Green", because the song was so beautiful, it seemed to have a transcendent quality.  I decided I wanted to hear more of this man's work.

My youth pastor at the time, as well as many of my Christian friends, had an extensive Keith Green collection.  I began listening to as much as I could get my hands on.  When I got some babysitting or birthday money in my hot, little hand, I would go and purchase a cassette tape or record album.

Keith's music was different from other Christian music I listened to at the time.  While worshipful and exalting the name of Christ, it called the listener to repentance and a life of radical obedience. Furthermore, it called the church to revival.   He really was more than an musician, he was a prophet; not in the sense of predicting the future, but in calling and exhorting Christians to take their commitments to Christ seriously and live their faith.

Keith was delivered as a young adult, from a life of drugs and aimless, spiritual wandering, when he surrendered his life to Christ.  He and his wife, Melody, came to Christ around the same time and immediately began following His commands to serve the poor and needy.  They took homeless and drug addicted people into their home, fed and clothed them, gave them the gospel, and watched God deliver them through the discipleship process.  The need for caring for these people eventually outgrew the capacity of their home and so they bought and rented additional homes on their block and continued their ministry to the disenfranchised.

During this time, Keith continued to develop his musical career.  Initially, he had no desire to be recording music for a Christian audience.  Eventually, through a series of events, he felt God leading him toward the Christian music industry.  His first album, For Him Who Has Ears to Hear, became wildly popular with Christian listeners, eventually rising to the top of the Christian Music Association's charts.

His music was convicting, motivating, passionate and. . . stepped on toes -- especially songs like Asleep in the Light, which calls the church away from apathetic inaction in order to live out our call as Christians to love others sacrificially.  Even though his songs were zealous and direct, somehow Christian listeners couldn't get enough of his message. Although he struggled with the balance of law and Gospel, sometimes even with a de-emphasis on grace, when I listened to him, I didn't feel condemned, as if he were better than I.  Instead, I felt challenged to take my faith and commitment seriously by a fellow sojourner who was struggling to live out his own faith.  It was as if he wasn't just speaking to his audience, he was speaking to himself as well.

Eventually Keith and Melody's ministry to the poor grew to the point where they needed to move.  This decision lead them to buy several acres of ranch property in Texas.  There they established the headquarters for their organization, Last Days Ministries.  Along with the music & discipleship ministries, LDM also produced a monthly newsletter with articles written by Keith, Melody and other Christian leaders.

Eventually, Keith became burdened by the conviction that the Gospel should not have an attached price tag.  Because of this, he asked to be released from his contract with Sparrow Records so that he could offer his albums for whatever price the listener could afford -- even if it was nothing. He also refused to charge admittance fees for his concerts.

The last year of his life, Keith and Melody became exposed to international missions through a European ministry tour they took together. This ignited a new passion for mobilizing the church to fulfill the Great Commission.  I know songs like Go to the Hungry Ones , Open Your Eyes, Here am I, Send Me and Jesus Commands Us to Go had a significant impact on both my husband and me, helping to fuel our growing burden for the world.

Shortly before his death, Keith began to realize the importance of God's grace in his life, and his songs and message began to reflect this.  Although I don't agree with all of his theology (he was more Arminian and I lean more toward Calvanism), I appreciate his transparent struggle in this area as communicated in his music.

Keith died in a private plane crash on a hot, summer day on the LDM property in Texas.  He was 28 years old.  Two of his children, Josiah, age 3 and Bethany, age 2 died with him.  Melody, continued to lead  LDM after his death.  Only a few months later, she toured with the Keith Green Memorial Concert.  Since the burden for missions was the last thing on Keith's heart right before he died, that was the emphasis of the concert.  Loren Cunningham founder of Youth With a Mission described the event as "the largest missions challenge in history that I know of".  God used the message of that concert tour to mobilize thousands of people to the foreign mission field.

Today, 34 years after the release of his first album and 29 years after his death, Keith's legacy continues through his music and message.  Popular worship songs like O Lord You're Beautiful and There is a Redeemer (written by Melody Green) are still sung in churches today. Although I never knew him, I look forward to that moment in heaven when I will get to embrace one of my most influential spiritual fathers.

More about Keith's life and testimony can be found in the biography, No Compromise: The Life Story of Keith Green .  You can also view the hour long video The Keith Green Story on Youtube.  His music is available through the LDM store and on sites like Amazon.com.

Here is a recording of Rushing Wind, one of my favorite Keith Green songs.

How Uncomfortable Do the Poor Make You Feel?

This is a great article from Compassion International. Its not too long and has some helpful insights.

How Uncomfortable Do the Poor Make You Feel?

Shaun Groves, Hero of the Faith

I wanted to post a correspondence interview my friend, Christine, held with Shaun Groves, a recording artist and Compassion International employee. This man has a tremendous heart for the poor. I have heard him and his wife interviewed on podcasts this past year and he really is inspiring. He says in his blog profile that he is "helping Christians discover what they were saved for, and being a voice for children around the world, desperate to be saved from poverty." Thank you for being that voice, Shaun! Without further ado, here is Christine's interview with Shaun:

Glory to God: Shaun Groves, Hero of the Faith: "Today's post is about Shaun Groves , a stand-up guy and real hero of the faith. As I've mentioned before, he's a full-time Compassion Inte..."

JJ Heller: What Love Really Means

I've become a JJ Heller fan over the past year.  Her music really ministers to me. I think this is because her songs are simple, fresh and feel so real -- no pretense.  My youngest daughter has some mental health problems and JJ's song Your Hands has been a tremendous encouragement to her (and us) in times of worry and discouragement. A friend of mine who is involved in ministry with us sent me a link to What Love Really Means.  One of the comments we hear frequently from some of our friends is that they don't feel worthy of God's love.  I have explained to them that perhaps the reason they feel that way maybe because we want to put God in the same conditional box we put our human relationships in.  JJ Heller captures the unconditional, redemptive love of God so well in this song.

Reaping in Due Season

And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:9 -- ESV)


I was listening on Family Talk to an interview with Steve Fitzhugh, director of The House, a ministry directed toward inner-city youth in Washington DC. Steve mentioned the impact that a church busing ministry had on his life, starting at the age of 12.  Dr.  Dobson also mentioned the influence that a church-based children's ministry had on his wife Shirley (who came from a dysfunctional home) when she was a child.  


In a previous post, I mentioned the importance of treating children from dysfunctional homes with kindness in church.  Steve and Shirley's lives were transformed, and in turn, their lives have impacted the lives of others in innumerable ways, because adults took the time to care about them and invest in their lives.  


I was so encouraged by this podcast, since so frequently I am tempted to "weary in well-doing" -- even yesterday I was feeling heavily this way. Sometimes this feeling is exacerbated by those in the Church that don't seem to want "those kinds of kids" coming to "our program".  Unfortunately we've encountered this attitude more than once. 


We've also been blessed by some children's leaders in the Church who have God's heart for "those kids".  They are willing to "stick it out" and instead of being content to just continue "blessing blessed people" they are earnestly trying to reach the ones most desperately in need of healthy, godly adult relationships and role-models.  


We have some friends, Steve and Tina, who planted a church in a low-income area of their town.  Dr. John M. Perkins, founder of the Christian Community Development Association (he's a "big-wig" in our field of ministry) visited their church.  What an honor it was for them!  Dr. Perkins told Steve that ministries like his typically don't see significant fruit for about 15 years, because the change is generational.  When we visited Steve and Tina a while back, they were at the 14 year mark and were starting to see significant fruit being produced in their work.  God had used them to build a thriving ministry made up of many adult leaders whom they had been discipling since childhood. 


Unfortunately, I think we sometimes discount the importance of spiritual investment in the life of a child -- especially those who have limited access to healthy adult role models or whose fathers are absent from the home. I know I find myself slipping into this way of thinking from time to time. In this interview with Steve Fizthugh, Dr. Dobson asked him to name the adults who had changed the trajectory of his life. 


He named the bus driver, the Sunday school teacher, the pastor, and the woman who "adopted" him on Sunday mornings by letting him sit next to her (the children were supposed to sit with their families and his family didn't come to church).  I loved that Dr. Dobson had him name these people; it really encouraged me.  To this day Steve remembered their names.  


At the end of the podcast, Steve read a song he had written about a young man named Mike.  Mike was murdered shortly after this song was written.  Steve had written the song as if Mike were telling his story. It details some of the struggles that children and youth in at-risk situations face.


Destiny
by Steve Fitzhugh


I can't hardly see the light of day 'cause misery stays in my way,
Still I dream to be free like them boys on my TV,
But every day is just the same; I'm got nothin' but pain on top of pain.
I can't escape this hopeless dream, open my mouth, but cannot scream.
So, here I am, me and my crew, not knowin' what we are to do.


The street's our only road, no other life to us was told.
Poverty ain't nothin' new; that's all I knew since I was 2.
Mom's did the best she could, struggling down here in the hood.
I'm steady hating that deadbeat dad; disappointment's all I had.
I got to face the dreadful fact, my daddy's never coming back.


Now, I gotta be a man all on my own, yet they don't want me actin' grown.
Street soldiers poppin' their Glock, young'uns keep dyin' up on my block.
I'm scared to close my eyes tonight, 'cause I'm feeling like something just ain't right.


Still I'm tryin' to speak my heart. Too bad your fear keeps us apart.
I can't believe it till I hear it. I can't hear it till you tell it.
If the truth is what you preach, won't you help this brother reach ... his destiny?


And I reminisce about all these scars; it's like I'm in prison and they're my bars.
I'm locked away from the joys of life. Am I destined for streets and strife?
Am I ever gonna win a wife? Ever gonna have a pain-free life?
Ever gonna travel around the world? Would I get another chance to raise my girl?
Will I ever sleep without this hunger? Makes me wonder, makes me wonder
Why I live in so much pain. Will I lose my mind? Will I go insane?
And when I hear the final bell, will it be heaven? Will it be hell?
Will I die when I'm in my prime? Can I ever renew my mind?Is there a God that can forgive all the wickedness I did?


I can't forgive my thugged self. Got too much pride to cry for help.
Facts too hard for me to admit. If it don't fit, you must acquit.
But if my record were true and right, I ought to be serving double life.
They should have thrown away the jailhouse key for the sins locked up inside of me.


No solution for my drama; I'm too old to run to Mamma.
I want to change. How do I pray it? How many times do I got to say it?
You've got sight; why can't you see it? Without you, will I ever achieve it? What? My destiny.


Still I choose to go on. Gotta survive. I've gotta stay strong.
How many times I said, "That's it." How many times I wanted to quit.
Like when Shorty broke my heart, I was true blue right from the start.
"Why me," I had to plead. Gave love a chance and still I bleed.
Regret I wasted time. True that all the blame was mine.


They tell me today's another day; they tell me it's not too late to change.
They say I can still redeem my life; they say there's a way to walk upright.
But when I close my eyes real tight, I'm still seeing demons in the night.


I'm ready to pay about any price just to get a little peace back in my life,
Like the time when we was young, me and my homeys just havin' fun.
Sometimes I want to go way back when; sometimes I want to upstart again.
No more thug life under them street lights. No more sadness. No more sin.


Wish you could help me find my way, 'cause I'm living in fear of Judgment Day.
Even the clock's my enemy, 'cause everybody dyin' look just like me.
It's like my grip is about to slip; it's like I'm down to my last clip.
I'm dodging shadows, but they was mine. Don't let me die before I find ... my destiny.

Biblical Justice: Prison Entrepreneurship Program and Men of Valor

I heard a great podcast today on Q ideas. Catherine Rhor, a former New York investment banker left her $200,000 a year salary to form a non-profit ministry that teaches business and life skills to prisoners 6 months before they are released.  The organization, Prison Entrepreneurship Program (PEP) also helps the ex-prisoners after they are released find jobs, pursue educational/vocational training opportunities, and develop friendships with healthy role models. The recidivism rate is 0% for the 256 graduates who are active participants in the program (as compared to the national average of 60%-70%).  For those who have only partially completed the program, the recidivism rate is 2.8 percent.

Catherine's story inspires me.  She shows how the faithful stewardship of resources and the power of relationship can transform the lives of prisoners.  Unfortunately there is not an embedded code that I can use to include the interview with Catherine Rohr in this blog.Click here to watch the interview.

PEP reminds me of a similar ministry, Men of Valor, I saw featured on the DVD Seek Social Justice produced by the Heritage Foundation.  Below is a video that gives an overview of the kinds of things this amazing ministry is doing.


Men of Valor | Mentoring from Compass Cinema on Vimeo.

Making Churches Safe for Hurting People: A Profile of a Safe Church

Based on my limited experience working with those struggling with chemical dependency addictions and those living in generational poverty, I believe there are many things that we as a church can do to help make our fellowships safe for hurting people (no matter what their socio-economic backgrounds – there are a lot of hurting people in the middle and upper classes too, especially in the clergy-- we just tend to hide it more).  I will list these below and then elaborate on some of these in further posts.

Safe Churches are made up of people who  . . .

1) Listen, with hearts of compassion, to people’s stories without condemnation and judgement.

2) Recognize themselves as sinners by comparing themselves to a holy God rather than comparing themselves to other people.  Safe churches include people who are humble and authentic – willing to share their weaknesses and struggles. These churches include people who readily apologize for misunderstandings or wrongs done.  Safe churches model what brokenness looks like by being broken themselves.

3) Have become educated about the neurochemistry of addictions in order to learn how difficult they are to overcome.

4) Get to know people.  They spend time with them,“hang out” with them and step outside the cultural comfort zone to develop intentional friendships. People in safe churches avoid viewing hurting people as projects that need fixing.

5) Are accepting. They allow people to be in process and are patient with the process (belong, believe, become). They let the Holy Spirit do His work

6) Are flexible and patient with the children.  They get to know them and are patient with misbehavior. They model a spirit of gentleness by speaking kindly when correction is necessary. They encourage other church members to do the same.

7) Have become aware of the culture of different classes – generational poverty, middle class, upper class – inorder to learn the hidden rules that shape our social interactions and expectations.

8) Encourage church members to volunteer with local non-profits who help the poor, addicted, or disenfranchised.

9) Have come to the realization that it is actually the church's job not just to care about hurting people (by writing a check or donating to a food closet) but to know hurting people (by spending time together as friends)

10) Visit or write to inmates in jail or patients in treatment. They accompany them to hearings and trials. They show they care.

11) Are available for transportation, childcare, phone calls, etc.

12) Form “Treatment and Recovery Teams” to offer logistical and prayer support for individuals in treatment centers and their families.

13) Believe in people.  They encourage them and expect them to succeed.  They are cheerleaders and advocates for them, both to their faces and behind their backs.

14) Form support teams of men and women to help single mothers and the elderly with yard work, auto repair, child care, home repairs, etc.

15) Are willing to be a mentor to a child or teen – especially fatherless ones.

16) Encourage people to pursue their educational and career goals and provide support and encouragement along the way (childcare, transportation, resume writing, tutoring, etc.).  They throw a party when someone completes an educational goal (eg. a GED graduation party).

17) Give people who are receiving blessings from the church, also the opportunity to serve.

18) Are willing to dress casually on Sundays, realizing that many people in generational poverty do not have professional wardrobes and will not feel accepted if their manner of dress makes them stand out.  This, of course, is a personal decision for each person to make and some are not comfortable "dressing down" on Sunday. Please search the scriptures, however, and decide if this is a cultural value or a Biblical one.

19) Do not muddy the line between “justification” and “sanctification” by teaching a works-based salvation.  But instead give a clear gospel of grace through faith in Christ Jesus.

Making Churches Safe For Hurting People: Walk a Mile

As a recovering pharisee, I began to see the need to start bridging the gap between my churchy, self-righteous, "looking-down-my-nose-at-those people" self and unbelievers.  A few years ago, I prayed three prayers that changed my life:

1.  I prayed for God to give me a burden for those who didn’t know Him personally

2.  I prayed that God would give me eyes to see the needs around me and direct me how to meet those needs

3.  I prayed that the light of Christ would enter a low-income trailer park here in town (450 police calls a year are directed to this trailer park)

As I began to pray these prayers, God began to bring friends into my life who were either addicted to drugs/alcohol or in recovery for these addictions.  As I got to know these friends, God gave me a tremendous burden for their situations.  All of them were living in poverty.  Many were single moms.  Most of them were victims of some form of horrific form of childhood abuse and some suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder .

Shane Claiborne (I'm not necessarily endorsing his theology or his politics, but I admire his heart for and service to the poor) quotes:

I asked participants who claimed to be 'strong followers of Jesus' whether Jesus spent time with the poor. Nearly 80 percent said yes. Later in the survey, I sneaked in another question, I asked this same group of strong followers whether they spent time with the poor, and less than 2 percent said they did. I learned a powerful lesson: We can admire and worship Jesus without doing what he did. We can applaud what he preached and stood for without caring about the same things. We can adore his cross without taking up ours. I had come to see that the great tragedy of the church is not that rich Christians do not care about the poor but that rich Christians do not know the poor. (Emphasis mine)

This was certainly true of me until about 5 years ago, when we began ministry in the trailer park.  Before this, when I saw drug addicts or homeless people or others in difficult situations, I would have an ambivalent, apathetic attitude at best and at worst, (I'm ashamed to admit) have a “he’s made his bed, let him lie in it"  kind of attitude. Rarely would I have compassion or wonder what kind of obstacles or upbringing may have led to the poor decisions that resulted in self destructive behavior.  In other words, I kind of assumed that all playing fields were equal and, furthermore, that everyone had the home court advantage.  If I had really thought about it, I wouldn't have come to this conclusion, of course, but I never got past my snap judgments to really think about it.

Getting to know someone in a difficult situation can bring about a sympathy that changes your perspective. For example:

I never dreamed that some addicts were first introduced to drugs by their parents, one I know was as young as age 9.  The first time I heard of this I was shocked and figured it must be a rare thing. However, this is a story we are beginning to hear more often.

I never imagined that many of our friends have parents who are currently addicts as well. One man I know recounted to me generations of addiction and crime.  Seven members of his family have died within the last 10 years – 6 from drug overdoses. He can name only 2 people in his family that are “clean” – and one of them has been in recovery for a number of years.

I never knew that many, if not most, of these dear friends have been victims of hard core sexual and physical abuse by their parents, both biological and step – until I listened to their stories.  Some of the most difficult abuse stories I’ve heard involve mothers not protecting their children from their abusive husbands or boyfriends. Additionally, a few people we know were abandoned by one or both parents when they were in their early teens. One young man was on his own, on the streets, by the age of 12.

I didn't know that most of them stay in unhealthy, dysfunctional friendships because that is where they feel loved, accepted and not judged.

I didn’t realize that more than half have not complete high school. One person we know dropped out in the 9th grade when she became pregnant with her first child.  I’ve stopped asking the question “What year did you graduate?”

I didn’t realize that most of the couples we know with kids are not married. In fact, the system is set up to discourage marriage –as a single mom with kids, if you get married, you run the risk of your welfare benefits being cut. I’m not saying this is right or wrong.  I’m just trying to provide an explanation as to why marriage can be a much bigger risk for someone in a lower-income class than it is for someone in the middle class.

Eric married some friends of ours last summer who have 4 kids and had been together since they were preteens/teenagers – 17 years.

I already mentioned the number of people we know who were raised by single mothers – most of these situations included one or more step fathers/boyfriends.

A high percentage of the people whose stories we’ve heard include at least one, if not a combination of these disadvantages.

I began to ask myself. If I had had just one of these factors as part of my upbringing where would I be? Please don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to excuse substance abuse or other criminal behavior or say "well its okay because there was abuse or neglect in the family".  I am however attempting to offer an explanation to those from similar backgrounds such as mine as to why someone might become addicted to drugs, alcohol, etc.  It would be arrogant of me to think that, despite the above obstacles, I would be in the safe, stable, healthy environments I have been in all my life.  I began to take inventory of my life's resources.

Let’s see:
-a loving, two parent (biological, no steps) home free of abuse
-parents who were clean and sober
-parents who loved each other
-a stable extended family
-plenty of healthy role models in family and friends
-parents who were educated and valued education
-a print-rich environment
-a home with predictable routines and limits
-a private Christian high school education
-a private Christian college education (mostly paid for by my parents)
-graduate school
-a loving, faithful, committed, Christian, non-abusive husband
-a Christian upbringing and mostly positive church experiences
-receiving Christ as my Savior as a young teenager.
-healthy, supportive friends
-parents who taught abstinence

I could go on and on, with the number of positive resources that were available to me both as a child and as an adult.  I have been blessed in so many ways that others we know could never imagine.  As a result of this beneficial upbringing, I have never tried drugs or smoked a cigarette in my life (although as a kid, my dad did let me take a puff once or twice off his cigar and tobacco pipe).  And although I have tried alcohol (beer and wine) in small amounts, I have never been drunk. Furthermore, the only man I have ever kissed or slept with is my husband.

At first my “squeaky clean” upbringing kept me from feeling qualified to even attempt ministering to addicts and those with criminal backgrounds.  What could I offer someone who has had such a difficult life?  I thought someone from an addictive background would write me off immediately. What I have found is exactly the opposite.  Addicts, recovering addicts, and felons are the most accepting group of people I have ever met. I'm serious. While I could never identify with the pain and difficulty that my friends have experienced, just being open in the areas I do struggle with and not condemning them for their areas of current and past struggle has helped bridge the gap between our different backgrounds -- friends and fellow sinners each on with our own issues to work out, on the journey together.

Making Churches Safe For Hurting People: The Musings of a Recovering Pharisee

My husband was speaking at a church a while back and a woman he met there relayed this story to him. Although the main details of this story are true, I've taken the liberty to change the names and to fill in some of the minor details in order to add continuity to the story. It illustrates the "behave, believe, belong" model of church community I referred to in my previous post.

"Dawn" was excited about bringing "Karen" to her women's Bible study.  Karen was not the church going type.  She was a recovering addict and she'd lived a hard life. Dawn had to do a lot of convincing to get her to come tonight. As Karen entered the church building, she seemed nervous.  Dawn could sense her discomfort and reassured her that this group of ladies would warmly welcome her into their gathering. As the two women found seats in the circle of women beginning to gather, Dawn noticed the woman sitting next to Karen begin to fidget in her chair. The woman turned her head toward Karen, gave her a quick glare, and then let out a big sigh.

Dawn was flabbergasted.  What would posses this woman to respond to Karen that way?  She hoped and prayed that this woman's actions had gone unnoticed by her friend.  However, this hope was short lived.  Dawn was horrified only moments later when this woman turned her head toward Karen, gave a couple of sniffs, raised her eyebrows and, with a sneering,condescending tone of voice said, "You smoke don't you?"
"Why . . . why . . . yes . . . I do," replied Karen.

"Well, you may not want to do so before the next time you come to Bible Study," the woman retorted.

There was no next time.  Ashamed, Karen never returned to the Bible study.

Honestly I don't know what motivated this woman to act the way she did.  She probably had some preconceived ideas about the "kind of woman" Karen was.  Along with these preconceived ideas, probably came some assumptions as to how she got there.  She may have looked to herself and said "Well I've made good choices.  I went to college, chose Jesus as my savior, have lived a clean life, have a good job, don't do drugs, drink, smoke, commit crimes, etc.  This lady really needs to get her act together.  If she just cleaned up her act, she'd have a better life and not live like this."

I can only attempt a guess at what was going through her mind, but I think my guess is probably "spot on", because that's where I was about 5 years ago.  That's right, my name is Katherine and I'm a "recovering pharisee*" (this is the point where you say "hi Katherine").

A few months ago, my husband and I participated in a training seminar for a relapse prevention program called The Genesis Process.  In this training, the author and presenter, Michael Dye, made a statement that has been resonating in my brain ever since:  "As churches we need to become safe places for hurting people."  Unfortunately, many of the people we know have been wounded by some church experience in their past, and are very hesitant to try again.

In the course of his presentation, Michael mentioned that 90% of all addictions are caused by relationships.  He went on to say, that establishing healthy relationships is the most important component those in self-destructive behaviors need in order to be restored to "a former healthy state". In other words, relationships caused the damage and healthy relationships are the key to healing the damage. Along the same lines, in her book, A Framework for Understanding Poverty, Ruby Payne, states that the one of the key bridges out of poverty is through relationships and role models.

Last December, I was volunteering at a discount community Christmas store that was a joint effort between our ministry,and other local churches, non-profits and government agencies to help provide Christmas gifts to low income families.  One day, one of the ladies, "Katrina," who I knew from the trailer park came in.  She had just gotten out of jail and was perusing the Bibles we had in our "free" section.  She mentioned to me that she had been studying the Bible in jail and would like to get involved in a Bible study or church.  "I've got to find some healthy friends" she said.

When push came to shove, however, she was reluctant to try any of the Bible studies or churches I recommended to her.  "Those just sound so intimidating," she said.  I offered to study the Bible with her on a one-on-one basis and she seemed interested, but then she moved out of town a few days later.  She did contact me after a while and ask me if I knew of any Bible studies in the area she had moved to.  I put her in contact with a local pastor I personally knew in her town.  I don't believe she has contacted him, though.

This conversation got me thinking.  If  Katrina feels too intimidated to even try a local church or Bible study, where is she going to meet healthy people?  Many friends we have met in her situation have not graduated from high school or completed the requirements for their GED.  Unfortunately this often limits them to jobs where other addicts are employed.   We have heard many times of situations where one co-worker convinces another to go drinking or using after work. The temptation is especially true if the person is employed in the restaurant industry, since most sit-down restaurants serve alcohol.

One of the requirements in The Genesis Process relapse prevention program is church attendance.  In addition to small group accountability and a 12-step program (like Alcoholics Anonymous or Celebrate Recovery), church attendance is part of the strategy to build healthy relationships, both with others and with God.  So herein lies the dilemma: given the example of Karen above, if healthy relationships are essential for healing, and  if churches aren't safe for addicts, how are they (addicts) ever going to meet healthy people and be in true recovery ("returning to a former, healthy state")?  Alcoholics Anonymous is doing a wonderful job of providing a safe place for addicts and connecting them with a "higher power".  I'm very, very supportive of AA.  But who is going to connect them to God through a relationship with Jesus?

They need us, Church!  Are we going to be there for them if they come, with all the mess complications involved? Or are we going to remain distant, entrenched in the self-righteous piety that has kept us safe, but paralyzed from being able to make a real difference in lives of the disenfranchised?  Furthermore, will we be patient with the process or will we demand the destination? Moreover, are we willing to pray and consider going where they are and reach into their world?

A local pastor who took the Genesis Process counselor training said he felt like putting up a big banner across his church sign that said "Addicts Welcome!".  I love that sentiment and his church has a number of recovering addicts who attend, so he must be doing something right.  But it will take more than a sign in order for that statement to be true in some churches. I'll continue sharing my ideas about how to make churches safe for hurting people in further posts.

*Credit given to Michael Dye for the term "Recovering Pharisee"

Making Churches Safe for Hurting People: Belong, Believe, Become

When I met "Jackson" we were in the middle of remodeling a trashed neglected trailer in a local trailer park in which we currently minister.  We were in the process of establishing a ministry center out of which we could meet the needs of this part of our community.  There are over 450 police calls each year to this part of town which is quite a bit for our small town of 9,000 people.  Many of the residents either currently struggle with or are in recovery for some sort of chemical dependancy addiction.  When Jackson stopped by the trailer, my mother and I were just cleaning up our paint supplies and calling it a day.

"Hi, I'm Jackson.  He cheerfully greeted us, hand extended.  You are doing a lot of work here. Are you guys just moving in?"  When I explained the purpose of what we were doing, he raised his eyebrows, put both hands out in front of him (in a "stop" gesture) and took two steps back.  "I'm not the 'churchy' type", he said.  "That's ok with me," I said, "but can we still be friends?"  At this statement, his whole body relaxed, his cheerful demeanor returned and he said "Sure! Do you want my cell phone number?"

Thus was the beginning of a friendship between Jackson and my husband and I that began a little over a year ago and has continued to grow.  As we have gotten to know Jackson, I can understand why he was resistant to "churchy" things.  He had a previous church experience that had been very negative.  Instead of reaching out to him in love, he was rejected by some people there and asked not to come back. 

The church he left was under what Jen Hatmaker refers to as the "Behave, Believe, Belong" model of church community.  In this model, people are expected to behave first, regardless as to whether or not they believe in Christ and have "signed on" to moral accountability that comes with a personal relationship with God.  Behaving may lead to belief which in turn leads to belonging to the group.  What's very clear about this paradigm is that a person will never belong unless they behave.

One of the burdens we have for the friends we have made in the trailer park is for them to get connected to a local church.  This is especially true for both the addicts and the recovering addicts that we know. Many of them have told us that we are the only stable friends they have.  In order to be successful in their recovery, though, they need to develop a new cirlcle of friends -- healthy friends who will support them in their recovery and not try to sabbatoge it by tempting them to use drugs or alcohol.

We have invited and invited and invited and had many promises made to us about going to church on Sunday.  Very rarely is there any follow through, however.  We have had a few people level with us and say that they are simply afraid of being judged or not being accepted.  Regardless of how much I assure them that my church isn't like that, at a basic, subconscious level, that fear is stronger than anything I can say to convince them otherwise, and Satan capitalizes on it. 

We will have people drop by the trailer often, especially on Friday mornings for coffee and donuts.  Occaisionally they are drunk or high.  Frequently they use choice words in the the course of conversation. We do not tell them to watch their language or come back when they are sober "and we will talk".  We have had to implement some policies when children are around, because we want the trailer to be a G-rated place for them during their "hangout time".  We have never had to enforce these policies at this point, however. People usually watch their language when kids are around and if they come drunk, they usually don't stay long when kids are there.

People have told us that they feel accepted by us and others in the ministry and that they don't feel judged.  One of our goals is to create a warm and accepting place in a church setting.  Last October, we started a ministry on Friday nights, at a church across from the trailer park, that attempts to create such a place. We gather together for dinner and then have a short "God Talk".  We then end with worship singing led by a young man who plays acoustic guitar.  We debated at first if we should include singing, but so many of our friends who are addicts said they love that part the most.  One man, who is not yet a believer, said he loves the music because it seems to "drive away the darkness."  Although we haven't had very many people connected to the trailer park come check us out (around ten people have done so), we do have three men who come fairly consistently, including Jackson.

Like at the trailer, we have had people come drunk and high occasionally. Our goal is to communicate unconditional acceptance and belonging without judgement. Please don't get me wrong, we do not water down the gospel or teach a compromising message. We try and make the gospel clear every time we gather.  It is our hope and prayer, though, that people will have an encounter with Jesus Christ and that they will eventually believe, receive Him as Savior, and then become a new creature in Christ.  Becoming will only happen, however, through the power of the Holy Spirit conforming each person to the image of Christ from the inside out.  But, even if they never believe and become, we want our friends  always to feel like they belong.


Belong, Believe, Become. This is the model of church community that Jen Hatmaker and her husband adopted when they planted a church among the poor in Austin.  Their story is very similar to my husband's and mine.  Her book, Interrupted, was suggested to me by another blogger who read about our ministry. Jen's insights into ministry to the poor and to those in addictions are almost identical to those impressed upon my husband's and my heart.

So how do churches become safe for hurting people?  We only have a few years of experience working with addicts, so we are far from being experts in this area.  We have been learning a lot through trial and error and heavy dependence on the Holy Spirit.  I do have some ideas I would like to share, but I'll do that in the next post :)